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Capture Your Grief – 2016 – Day #17

Sacred Space

Today I took some time to look back through my previous years of this project.  My sacred space as evolved and changed as my grief has.  We have a special area in our home and pictures on the wall.  We have trees and plants and a cemetery space.  We have this lovely bench that we take pictures near each year.  It made me realize that my sacred space is really our home.

When I say home, I don’t mean the structure.  We have moved a couple of times since Clara passed.  When referred to as a structure I find that “home” isn’t sacred.  Her empty room was never sacred.  It was something that caused strife between myself and other family members.  It was a place where another baby took over.  When I refer to “home” I really mean this group of people that live together, love together, grieve together.

Our home has always been a safe place to talk about Clara.  It is a place to share reminders and celebrate birthdays.  One where we sometimes cry together.  We ask and answer questions about this baby girl.  Our home is where we don’t have to explain why we take our back-to-school pictures near this bench each year, we just know.  We grow together in our loss and change.  Our home is always growing.

Our home reminds me that we will always grow and change but nothing makes Clara’s life lost.  She is part of this sacred space in our hearts and home.

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#CaptureYourGrief – Day #21

Sacred Space

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My place of reflection, my sacred place, has changed over the past few years. I have found that there isn’t one place that is sacred to me.  I firmly believe any space can be a sacred space.  It is the love you have that can make it sacred.  It isn’t about objects or spaces but the love that you feel or offer in them.

 In the beginning my sacred space was her little peanut in our front yard.  I would sit on the tiny bench under the shade of her tree.  It was comforting.  The shade felt like an umbrella of protection in a world that could be so abrasive.

We have been very fortunate to have sold our home to a wonderful family who have taken care of that tree.  Last Christmas I got a picture of Clara’s tree decorated in pink lights in her memory.  I hold a special place in my heart for them.  Anyone else might have let the tree go or never thought of how special it was to us.  They took the time to care of her tree and think of her life and how important she was to us. It was a heartwarming gesture that meant a lot to us!

After our move my sacred place became that same bench but instead of it being under the tree, it sits near our front door.  We walk by it everyday.  As I was trying to find an image for today my camera revealed something that touched my heart.  That bench is in so many pictures from the past year!  Our easter pictures, family pictures, even the first day of school!!  It is an hidden reminder that Clara might be physically missing but she is still part of our lives each day.

Today my sacred space is really times that I think of her.  Sometimes it is while watching the kids play.  Sometimes it is when we serve others.  I would say it would even be the Run for Their Live’s event.  When we share our love, our comfort, our hearts, we share our sacred place.

Love makes every space sacred & every moment meaningful.

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Clara’s tree Christmas 2014

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The CarlyMarie Project – Day 7

                                    Sacred Place

 

Our sacred place and place of memory for Clara has always been her tree and rose bush in our front yard and her grave.  This year the move has changed that.  We no longer look out to see our beautiful crabapple tree.  Instead we see the few things we were able to bring with us.  Chris and I bought this bench shortly after we planted Clara’s tree and landscaped a “peanut” shape around it.  We would sometimes sit on the bench and think about her knowing someday the tree would provide shade and comfort.  The Love plaque was on Clara’s grave for almost a year but after the rules changed at the cemetery, we brought it home.  It made the trek to Iowa thanks to a couple of special helpers/movers who saw it after everything was packed and loaded.  🙂

Every single day I walk past these two precious things and am reminded that we didn’t leave Clara behind.  We have simply left a reminder back home that her spirit lives on.  And now we have a reminder that her spirit lives in our new home and in our hearts.  It makes me smile. <3

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“One day I caught myself smiling for no reason, then I realized I was thinking of you.”

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