Day #7: What to Say
Would you mind if we:
Brought a meal, brought over groceries, played with the kids, shared a story about Clara, give you a hug (this one is my favorite).
We are not sure how to help. How can we help?
Sometimes our response might be any of the things above or it may simply be keep us in your prayers or can you ask me this in a couple of weeks when the chaos slows down and when I might actually know what we need.With either one of these my answer may be no. Don’t take offense to that please! Making a meal might be something I want to do after a week of eating prepared meals or we may just want some quiet time to talk as a couple and also with our kids to make sure everyone is being heard. No doesn’t have to be “mean” it really means “right now we are overwhelmed by everyone’s generosity”
Something I didn’t write but heard from others is simply to say “I am sorry”.
Don’t add anything to it, that is all you need to say. “I am sorry” doesn’t take the pain away but it shows me that you wish it hadn’t happened and that you care.
